Contrary to previous beliefs, I am starting to accept that
there is an actual limit to the emotional turmoil a person can go through at a
given time. A bit like full Tupperware, if something new comes, something old
has got to go.
Which is really irritating if you are trying to maintain an
indefinite number of plates spinning in the air at every one time. But then the
options are to either let them all fall, or hold some of them in your hands
until the spinning becomes more manageable.
As you can imagine, the difference between Emotionally Competent
people and EIs is in the handling and communication of the overall scenario. An
EI will freeze, panic and retrieve, staring at the plates, both spinning and in
their hands. And possible let them fall anyway.
Nobody is perfect.
As an afterthought, one of the few good aspects of getting old is learning to accept that some things just go wrong. That happy endings are the exception, not the rule. And still, life goes on and it has some good to it.
ReplyDeleteGetting old also helps you to be happy with a ray of sun coming in the room where you are working on something you hate. You know that nothing is endless. Things must change at some point, and the sun must shine again. But if you focus on what you are unhappy with, you might miss that ray of light....
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