Just lust

Single Friend #2 has a lot of interesting ideas these days.

We were out for dinner with Married Friend #2 who, completely out of character, dropped the 'perfect woman' mask and confessed some marital problems.

After several years with her husband, the passion is quieting down. Actually, everything seems to be going south in her relationship. Both of them are very successful high-achievers, with full-time careers, very demanding jobs, a busy social life and several extracurricular interests. Their calendars are a nightmare to infiltrate, and even a coffee has to be booked months in advance. Apparently this is not always a good thing. They have no time for each other, often go on holiday separately and, since he travels a lot, months go by without sharing a bed.

Worryingly, Married Friend #2 is giving signs of distance, disappointment and disinterest (and down went another glass of wine).

While I looked at her like a rabbit in the headlights, SF#2 sprang immediately into friendly action and presented a solution, pronto. Sex. Everyday. Even if busy, tired, can't be bothered, don't fancy it. As a medicine. When and where to be arranged on the spot, but no excuses, it has to be done.

Woah! Everyday? Married Friend #2 looked quite.. overwhelmed at the idea.

Apparently, there is a scientific base to this. Oxytocin, one of the hormones released during sex, has been recently shown to also have links to social behaviours, such as trust, bonding and release of anxiety. Sure, you can buy it over the Internet, but somehow I don't think it would work as well.. and you may want to make sure that the first person you see after administration is actually your partner...

So, we grabbed Married Friend #2's BlackBerry and added a daily 'Sex with your husband' as a locked recurrent appointment that cannot be deleted. We shall see.. or maybe not, we don't need to see.. just the results of the experiment will be fine..